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Friday, July 31, 2009
Monday, July 27, 2009
The Move * Survivor's Baggage *Ramblings
Hey all,
Well, We're in Tsfat!
Well the fact that this computer is up and running is a good sign. We are almost settled here. Its a bit of a fixer upper place but its really nice! Great yard space, lots of space in general.
We are still in boxes, somewhat. Slowly slowly, we're getting there.
At my parents house, I sometimes had the chore of watering the garden, but now I have to understand that that's a real job -not a chore. If it doesn't get done or delegated at least, the grass, the orange tree, the palm tree, flowers, everything will go. *gulp*. At times I miss being a kid! lol.
Now that we're somewhat settled, hubby has to get back to work, and I am back in charge of maintaining the home. I still have to figure out stuff such as a boiler and we have to buy tanks of gas (instead of having a gas company supply us gas).
The homes here seems to me more builder and repairman friendly than the homes in Jerusalem or in America. In America, you'd have to search hard before you know where an opening pipe is to repair it -its usually covered with plaster, wall, etc. Here, its as if the houses were meant more for the builders to easily find what they need rather than a simple homeowner who just lives there. Also, many in Tsfat are actually homebuilders, repairmen, etc. I think I'm going to subscribe to a home improvement magazine for tips. I don't want to appear like a wimpy gringa around here.
Everyone so far have been quite friendly. I appreciate that. One social difference from Jerusalem is that the tourists seem more in-the-face; they're everywhere. Another interesting difference is there could be a row of homes one after the other and when you look more carefully, you see one of the houses is not really a house but a kever of a tzaddik (the burial of a holy righteous individual who passed away)! Its as if the past and the future and the present just melds and everyone is living together.
There are still lots of repairs underway: A leaking air conditioner, living room remodeling, and still lots of things to do: connecting the washer, buying a better garden hose, etc. It seems endless!
Reacquainting
I heard from a neighbor the whole Gates /arrest goings on. That made me all the more want to go online. I couldn't imagine all the news I was missing.
Ech! what a downer!!
Hubby finally gets the computer hooked up and I see the news: controversies, murders, rapes, and so on and so on. Then again what was I expecting? World peace? Hmmmm...that would've been nice hahaha hahah.
Survivor's Baggage
After the move, I got really, but really down. Don't know why. All my insecurities rose up and I became fearful and protective of my boundaries. I almost got resentful that Mr. Black fire white fire was trying to partake in designing how the new kitchen should be (I didn't stick my nose in designing his office! lol). My main concern was that there would be two sinks (one for dairy foods and one for meat foods since the two are not eaten together) and a space for the stove. Everything else, I wasn't so concerned about. Well, thankfully, my sister got me out of my funk and reminded me that I got what I wanted and why should I fuss over the "extras" if I don't really care about it. Okay. Thanks Sister!
Almost everyday I feel like I'm shedding the ideas and images that the Western world created and offers to people as the ideal in marital relationships. I think it just doesn't work. Perhaps it just doesn't work for me or for the society I'm in.
For example, at times when hubby and I get jokey jokey and playful and all that, I tend to become very "people pleasing" and will bend my own boundaries. But then when he oversteps and I feel insulted or that my space is infringed upon, I get bothered and sad and upset and see him as the enemy! lol. Too much extremes. Somehow -without being bland- I have to find a way to be. I have to be able to be warm and lovey dovey without compromising my borders.
For example, if things are going great, that still doesn't mean I have to be with all the kids all the time.
If things are going great, I still don't have to give in on what matters to me.
If things are going great, I am still me with my boundaries and concerns.
Somehow I have to remember that.
Don't get me wrong, I"m not blaming him for being assertive in what he wants. He's fine! I have to also be assertive in what I want. Its just that it can seem like an argument to me.
Another interesting, slightly related thing that happened:
The last days in our old house, we spent Shabbat at a hotel. Just easier. While there this lady with a NY accent came in and saw me in the lounge area. I was sitting with my prayer book and the kids were playing about. She comes and asks me all sorts of personal questions. I found it all to be rude and crass. Finally, in order to make her go away I decided to be rude and crass as well. And so I was. But she took it all in stride and understood that I wanted her to leave.
I realize right then that if someone is crass, its because.... they are crass. They probably understand and appreciate crassness. If I want to convey to them something, I have to do it crassly. Did I get the right lesson from this? Kinda like with the humble act humbly, with the wicked act wickedly type of thing???
Anyway, I have to understand that everyone is out for their own interest. Everyone has different levels of crassness. I may think myself refined, but to another, I may be crass!
And this could be why each religion says only "their people" will "go to heaven" i.e. their IDEAL heaven. I think what that statement really is saying is that people who follow x guidelines and values will find y as an ideal "heaven" for them, whereas people who follow a different set of values and guidelines, that same y will NOT be a heaven for them, instead a Z would be their heaven. Anyways, there I go again getting all spurrrtual. hahah hahah.
So, I 'm hooked up again and in between house stuff I hope to read all the blogs and see what's up with everyone one! I already noticed an interesting post at Black Woman Blow the Trumpet on disciplining children.....Looking forward.
Well, We're in Tsfat!
Well the fact that this computer is up and running is a good sign. We are almost settled here. Its a bit of a fixer upper place but its really nice! Great yard space, lots of space in general.
We are still in boxes, somewhat. Slowly slowly, we're getting there.
At my parents house, I sometimes had the chore of watering the garden, but now I have to understand that that's a real job -not a chore. If it doesn't get done or delegated at least, the grass, the orange tree, the palm tree, flowers, everything will go. *gulp*. At times I miss being a kid! lol.
Now that we're somewhat settled, hubby has to get back to work, and I am back in charge of maintaining the home. I still have to figure out stuff such as a boiler and we have to buy tanks of gas (instead of having a gas company supply us gas).
The homes here seems to me more builder and repairman friendly than the homes in Jerusalem or in America. In America, you'd have to search hard before you know where an opening pipe is to repair it -its usually covered with plaster, wall, etc. Here, its as if the houses were meant more for the builders to easily find what they need rather than a simple homeowner who just lives there. Also, many in Tsfat are actually homebuilders, repairmen, etc. I think I'm going to subscribe to a home improvement magazine for tips. I don't want to appear like a wimpy gringa around here.
Everyone so far have been quite friendly. I appreciate that. One social difference from Jerusalem is that the tourists seem more in-the-face; they're everywhere. Another interesting difference is there could be a row of homes one after the other and when you look more carefully, you see one of the houses is not really a house but a kever of a tzaddik (the burial of a holy righteous individual who passed away)! Its as if the past and the future and the present just melds and everyone is living together.
There are still lots of repairs underway: A leaking air conditioner, living room remodeling, and still lots of things to do: connecting the washer, buying a better garden hose, etc. It seems endless!
Reacquainting
I heard from a neighbor the whole Gates /arrest goings on. That made me all the more want to go online. I couldn't imagine all the news I was missing.
Ech! what a downer!!
Hubby finally gets the computer hooked up and I see the news: controversies, murders, rapes, and so on and so on. Then again what was I expecting? World peace? Hmmmm...that would've been nice hahaha hahah.
Survivor's Baggage
After the move, I got really, but really down. Don't know why. All my insecurities rose up and I became fearful and protective of my boundaries. I almost got resentful that Mr. Black fire white fire was trying to partake in designing how the new kitchen should be (I didn't stick my nose in designing his office! lol). My main concern was that there would be two sinks (one for dairy foods and one for meat foods since the two are not eaten together) and a space for the stove. Everything else, I wasn't so concerned about. Well, thankfully, my sister got me out of my funk and reminded me that I got what I wanted and why should I fuss over the "extras" if I don't really care about it. Okay. Thanks Sister!
Almost everyday I feel like I'm shedding the ideas and images that the Western world created and offers to people as the ideal in marital relationships. I think it just doesn't work. Perhaps it just doesn't work for me or for the society I'm in.
For example, at times when hubby and I get jokey jokey and playful and all that, I tend to become very "people pleasing" and will bend my own boundaries. But then when he oversteps and I feel insulted or that my space is infringed upon, I get bothered and sad and upset and see him as the enemy! lol. Too much extremes. Somehow -without being bland- I have to find a way to be. I have to be able to be warm and lovey dovey without compromising my borders.
For example, if things are going great, that still doesn't mean I have to be with all the kids all the time.
If things are going great, I still don't have to give in on what matters to me.
If things are going great, I am still me with my boundaries and concerns.
Somehow I have to remember that.
Don't get me wrong, I"m not blaming him for being assertive in what he wants. He's fine! I have to also be assertive in what I want. Its just that it can seem like an argument to me.
Another interesting, slightly related thing that happened:
The last days in our old house, we spent Shabbat at a hotel. Just easier. While there this lady with a NY accent came in and saw me in the lounge area. I was sitting with my prayer book and the kids were playing about. She comes and asks me all sorts of personal questions. I found it all to be rude and crass. Finally, in order to make her go away I decided to be rude and crass as well. And so I was. But she took it all in stride and understood that I wanted her to leave.
I realize right then that if someone is crass, its because.... they are crass. They probably understand and appreciate crassness. If I want to convey to them something, I have to do it crassly. Did I get the right lesson from this? Kinda like with the humble act humbly, with the wicked act wickedly type of thing???
Anyway, I have to understand that everyone is out for their own interest. Everyone has different levels of crassness. I may think myself refined, but to another, I may be crass!
And this could be why each religion says only "their people" will "go to heaven" i.e. their IDEAL heaven. I think what that statement really is saying is that people who follow x guidelines and values will find y as an ideal "heaven" for them, whereas people who follow a different set of values and guidelines, that same y will NOT be a heaven for them, instead a Z would be their heaven. Anyways, there I go again getting all spurrrtual. hahah hahah.
So, I 'm hooked up again and in between house stuff I hope to read all the blogs and see what's up with everyone one! I already noticed an interesting post at Black Woman Blow the Trumpet on disciplining children.....Looking forward.
Friday, July 17, 2009
Good bye for Now * BW and New Beginnings * Rosh Hashana
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Okay, I've come to the last stretch. We've packed up nearly everything in the house. Amidst all the boxes was the unpacked computer. Finally I've got to put it away.
Iterary
Shabbat at a hotel. I can't stand all the mess and boxes. No chance of a Shabbat relaxation. Gotta have that creative "Amen". (Thanks for the lesson, F. Domino).
Saturday night, meet we meet with lawyers to finalize things.
Sunday morning. The big 3 hour ride to the mystical city of Tzfat! Hopefully everything will be okay with the movers and us catching the bus.
Sunday afternoon. Hopefully we'll unpack --probably only the necessities. Computer hopefully? lol.
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The next great (Jewish) holiday is Rosh Hashana. That will mark the new Jewish new year of 5770. That's a pretty big deal. Every 10s, 100s, 1000s usually mark times for changes. Truly, BW are on the verge of some serious changes. But will it be for the good? Can we insure that it will be for the good? What are the various ways to obtain Godly blessings? What are the various ways to mitigate bad tidings? Who are the key players that we ought to get to know?
I'm so fascinated and wish for only good!
Okay, I've come to the last stretch. We've packed up nearly everything in the house. Amidst all the boxes was the unpacked computer. Finally I've got to put it away.
Iterary
Shabbat at a hotel. I can't stand all the mess and boxes. No chance of a Shabbat relaxation. Gotta have that creative "Amen". (Thanks for the lesson, F. Domino).
Saturday night, meet we meet with lawyers to finalize things.
Sunday morning. The big 3 hour ride to the mystical city of Tzfat! Hopefully everything will be okay with the movers and us catching the bus.
Sunday afternoon. Hopefully we'll unpack --probably only the necessities. Computer hopefully? lol.
*******************************************************
The next great (Jewish) holiday is Rosh Hashana. That will mark the new Jewish new year of 5770. That's a pretty big deal. Every 10s, 100s, 1000s usually mark times for changes. Truly, BW are on the verge of some serious changes. But will it be for the good? Can we insure that it will be for the good? What are the various ways to obtain Godly blessings? What are the various ways to mitigate bad tidings? Who are the key players that we ought to get to know?
I'm so fascinated and wish for only good!
Thursday, July 16, 2009
BW's Length of Days vs Long Years
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This is a speed post because I really should be packing, but...
One thing I see in many self empowerment blogs are full and quick agreement with the message. That's great. But how long lasting is it?
I would rather folks were skeptical in the short run and became deep, permanent believers of the self empowerment messages rather than the great "YES" and then the long day is over. Actually, the best would be short run AND long run empowerment.
(maybe I'll clean up this post. Maybe not.)
This is a speed post because I really should be packing, but...
One thing I see in many self empowerment blogs are full and quick agreement with the message. That's great. But how long lasting is it?
I would rather folks were skeptical in the short run and became deep, permanent believers of the self empowerment messages rather than the great "YES" and then the long day is over. Actually, the best would be short run AND long run empowerment.
(maybe I'll clean up this post. Maybe not.)
Monday, July 13, 2009
Sparks of the Hidden Light
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Imagine a radio. Its plugged to the wall and turned on. Great music is playing. Makes you wanna snap your fingers and tap your feet...maybe even dance abit!
Then someone cuts the cord.
That is how I imagine religion. Lots of electricity are being emitted from the wall onto the part of the plug that is still connected to the wall. But at the point where the cable is cut, all you see are sparks and cackling lights. They seem dazzling. But to many they also seem .... pointless.
Then you have the other side. The cords and cables still attached to the radio. To many it seems.... dead, mundane, pointless.
It would be great when the day comes that this cord and cable is attached again. When the music can play again!
Then we'll be able to understand "connections" such as .....
The connection between destroying evil decrees..... and the holiness of dancing.
The connection between prophecying ................. and music.
The connection between understanding .............. and wine
The connection between wisdoms .................... and oil
Even the more subtle things can be discussed (without my hesitation) such as...
The connection between people's anger ............... and it giving fuel to wild behavior in wild animals (that is why it says, that in the end of times the leopard can lie together with the sheep, etc. No anger because everyone accepts that God is behind everything, leads to no more wild behavior on the part of the wild animals -those who have the propensity to catch such "vibes")
The connection between lack of charity ..................... and famine, or pestilence in the world.
But for now, we live in the dark....
Where is First Domino???
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What happened? Where do bloggers go when they don't blog? First Domino, you are missed...
What happened? Where do bloggers go when they don't blog? First Domino, you are missed...
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