The hardest part about dealing with the "Bad Guys" of this world are many.
(1) Unlike what TV, movie and other mediums have taught, the "Bad Guys" are not usually ugly, unliked, unlikable, or dirty. In fact, more times that not they are usually, handsome or beautiful, well liked, friendly, and clean!
(2) The "Bad Guys" are usually complex as well. They may have very good sides to them. The rest of their behavior may almost seem to contradict one's mind from thinking this person is bad (for me!).
However, the hardest part of dealing with hurtful people is the slow reaction and then the great hysterics that accompany the final, long awaited action.
Many -usually women- who have been through abuse of any kind -and I'm talking abuse by a partner, by enablers, by media calling them names and shaming them before an international audience- have to work their way through the rationalization that "this didn't just happen to me" "surely I'm reading this wrong"
After however many days, months, years it takes to get over the denial and finally act, there is so much pent up rage waiting to unleash that the 'victim' no matter how righteous she/he is, comes off seeming ridiculously over reacting!
This can come out looking bad to a therapist. The Therapist may not understand this and somehow find more calming, bonding to the abuser who's controlled and calm. Somehow the person/victim/survivor has to find it in themselves the knowledge that they ARE right and understand that they may not be behaving rationally at the moment, but this is the energy force that they need to propel themselves to make things better for themselves.
I like (most) of the changes in BW that I am seeing in blogosphere. I pray that somehow-even though we are not a monolith, as I hear time and time again- that somehow we do learn to bond -as we are bonded no matter what anyway- in a positive, supportive, and beneficial way to each other.