After reading Ruth's intense post as she gives a final good bye to a toxic man, I thought I'd post this for all.
When checking up on a man, yes, use all the references he gave, but then....send the dogs!
Ever wonder why there are so many people just waiting to say gossip? Always got some DIRT on somebody?! What is their purpose? Well, its for just this purpose:
Get them to dig up info on your guy. If the info is something you can handle, all good and well. If its just too D I R T A Y, then you'll know to let the man go!